“Passion is the quickest to develop, and the quickest to fade. Intimacy develops more slowly, and commitment more gradually still.”– Robert Sternberg
The world demands commitment. If you want to keep a job, you have to commit. If you want to be in a good relationship, you have to commit. If you want to own a home, you have to maintain a mortgage which requires a financial commitment. If want to be a good parent, you have to be fully committed to your family. There are many ways in our life that we have to make the decision to commit.
Where commitment is less transparent and clear is within ourselves.
- How many times have you promised to start a diet and workout and you stop a month later?
- How many times have you promised to do some of the fun things that you used to do?
- How many times have you said that you need to take a vacation, but you never put the money aside?
These are some of the ways that you let yourself down. When you are not committed to yourself, you no longer trust yourself. You learn that you can’t depend on yourself. You make yourself a promise and you may have good intentions, but you know that you will break it if you decide that someone or something needs you more. It’s great that you love other people and are committed to them, but it shouldn’t require the loss of yourself. Your happiness serves everyone, but your sadness serves no one.
I recently committed to writing this blog five days a week. Prior to this, I would write two or three days. I would do it when I felt like it. I could hear this voice in my mind begging me to write and I would ignore it. I knew that writing the blog was good for me, but fear prevented me from fully committing to it. There were these questions bouncing around in my head. What if I can’t come up with topics?” What if I don’t have time? What if it stops being fun?
Finally, one day, I decided that it was important to write on a regular schedule. I got up this morning to make sure that I had time to write this blog. I put some structure around it and found ways to make it easier. I committed to it. I found that I haven’t run out of topics. I’ve made time for it. I also made a promise with myself that if it ever isn’t fun that I will simply stop. Commitment is when it’s not a burden and I worked it out so that this will never be a burden for me.
Why not do that thing that you’ve put off that your soul is crying out for? You need yourself as much as everyone else needs you. Commit to yourself today. Remove your excuses and just do it. All you have to do is make yourself a priority. Share in the comments how it made you feel and the results.
“Unless commitment is made, there are only promises and hopes… but no plans.”- Peter F. Drucker