Why We Choose Not to Be the Hero in Our Own Lives

“I say the universe speaks to us, always, first in whispers. And a whisper in your life usually feels like ‘hmm, that’s odd.’ Or, ‘hmm, that doesn’t make any sense.’ Or, ‘hmm, is that right?’ It’s that subtle. And if you don’t pay attention to the whisper, it gets louder and louder and louder. I say it’s like getting thumped upside the head. If you don’t pay attention to that, it’s like getting a brick upside your head. You don’t pay attention to that—the brick wall falls down. That is the pattern that I see in my life and so many other people’s lives. And so, I ask people, ‘What are the whispers? What’s whispering to you now?'” — Oprah

Life always gives us a warning before it falls apart. The problem is that we usually ignore it. There are small signs at first. There’s that voice within us that tells us to do the opposite of the thing we want to do. Sometimes, the reason we stay too long is because we are comfortable. We think about the energy it will take to find a new job, move or find someone else to love and it feels like it is easier to stay where you are.

But, every choice we ignore is eventually made for us whether we want it or not. You are given a choice to make a decision while you are comfortable. If you pass it up, the choice will be made for you and it won’t be in a way that makes you comfortable. Tony Robbins says, “In life, you need either inspiration or desperation.”  Sometimes, we let things go until we find ourselves in desperation. I’ve been guilty of doing the same thing. I’ve ignored the signs until it feels like my life is falling apart.

Maybe, it is easier to consider yourself a victim, but sometimes it is the choices that we ignore that become the disasters in our life. If you leave it until you don’t have a choice, then you don’t have to take responsibility for the outcome.  Or we think that doing the thing that we don’t want to do isn’t fun. We choose to live now and pay later. The problem is that the cost adds up over time and you pay a lot more than you thought you would ever have to pay. There are signs that we overlook or minimize instead of taking action immediately then we tell ourselves that the result came out of nowhere. We override our own feelings to keep the comfort of our world. Then something happens that rocks our world and forces us to deal with the very thing we have tried to ignore. We lose the job. The person walks away from our relationship or finds someone else. We find ourselves in the hospital with a scary diagnosis.

Are there things in your life that you are ignoring to keep the illusion that everything is perfect? What is going unsaid in your life? What would happen if you found the courage to say the thing that needs to be said? You may find that you have an opportunity to save the thing that you are ignoring. You may have a chance to make a different decision. Maybe, you will find that you are not as comfortable as you think you are. The choice is going to be made whether you make it or not. What can you fix before it is broken? Can you be inspired to be proactive or will you wait until you have to take action out of desperation? We have the power to be our own hero. You’ll either save yourself before the disaster or save yourself from the disaster.


It’s Not the End of the World. Now What?

I can only guess that there are some disappointed people this morning. They expected the world to end, but it continues to turn as normal. There was a belief by some that because the Mayan calendar ended on 12/21/2012 that today would signal the end of humanity. The world is still here and our journey isn’t over.

This has been a common occurrence throughout my life. I can remember the threat of the end of world in 2000, 2003 and, even, last year. Each time, the world continued to turn. But, oddly enough, I don’t think that people are wrong. I think the world has ended, but not in the way that people think.

I believe that the end of the world is actually a massive change in collective consciousness. I posted previously about how the world is changing and people’s ideals are changing. Some of the things that we have struggled with for years such as racism, sexism, class warfare and even religion are being viewed differently. It’s becoming  less acceptable to define people with simple ideals or to discriminate against them for their differences under the guise of helping them. It’s as if we are all waking up at the same time. There is a new consciousness that it taking over.

The tragedy at Sandy Hook has sparked a conversation about gun control and mental health. The destruction of Hurricane Sandy has placed a focus on climate change. Healthcare is on the forefront. The fiscal cliff has people feeling they are being held hostage between sides that are more concerned with their own interest rather than the lives that hang in the balance. In some ways, we are waking up to the intentions that are affecting our daily life. There is a question of who are these politics benefiting and where is our money going if not to help us.

I think that we can create a new world at any time. When we stop accepting things as they “always have been” and start making real choices about the type of world we want to live in. The world as we knew it is ending. People are starting to understand that if we want safety for our children, financial security and the promise of great healthcare that it is up to us to make it a priority.

When does the world end? It ends when we examine the rules of the old world and decide that they no longer serve us. It’s when we start to realize that we have to power to collectively create a new and better world for us and for our children after us.

“To recognize one’s own insanity is, of course, the arising of sanity, the beginning of healing and transcendence.” ― Eckhart Tolle

Everything that You Need is Waiting for You

Today, I want to share something I read that sums up perfectly the Path:

“I prayed for change, so I changed my mind.
I prayed for guidance and learned to trust myself.
I prayed for happiness and realized I am not my ego.
I prayed for peace and learned to accept others unconditionally.
I prayed for abundance and realized my doubt kept it out.
I prayed for wealth and realized it is my health.
I prayed for a miracle and realized I am the miracle.
I prayed for a soul mate and realized I am the one.
I prayed for love and realized it’s always knocking,
but I have to allow it in.”- Jackson Kiddard

To me, the Path isn’t about making life rosy and sunny. It’s not about painting a positive outlook over life. The Path is about empowering yourself to be responsible for your life. It’s about the study and understanding of self to understand the world around you. Until, you can love yourself fully, you can never fully love someone else. The first step to the Path is to want to be on the Path. You have to change your mind. You have to recognize that there is something bigger than you and you have to want to get to know it. Everything that you want and need in this world is within you. You guide the Universe by telling it what you want. If you don’t love yourself then you are telling the Universe that you want to be unloved. You can change that. You can be kind, loving and receptive to yourself. You can believe that you are meant to be abundant. You can know that you are a miracle. If you can step fully into who you are, you can experience all the beauty the Universe has to offer. The Path is to discover that you are the beauty that the Universe has to offer and it’s just waiting for you to understand and allow it.