Are You Repelling Money from Your Life?

“Money is congealed energy, and releasing it releases life’s possibilities”- Joseph Campbell

Did you know that you relationship with your money is a reflection of things you believe about yourself? I’m reading a great book called, “The Energy of Money: A Spiritual Guide to Financial and Personal Fullfillment” by Maria Nemeth.

The book describes how money is another form of energy in your life. We tend to look at money as a concrete fact in our lives, but the reality is that our relationship to our money is another reflection of our inside beliefs. The book talks about how your relationship with your money is often similar to other relationships in your life.

For example, if you are someone who is wasteful with your money then you are more likely to also be wasteful with your time, neglectful in your friendships and more focused on your own pleasure.

Another example is if you are someone who is a penny pincher then you are more likely to be controlling with your time and in your friendships. You are also more restrictive in your daily life.

For many of us, money is a discussion we avoid having and source of anxiety. Some people don’t even know where their money is going and what they are spending it on because we would rather not know than to understand the reality of our own responsibility for our money issues. The same lack of consciousness can be played out in other areas of our lives which is why money can play a large part in relationships. Often, the couple is not just fighting about the money, but their partner’s lack of consciousness or hyper-focus on money.

The reality is that money is apart of the energy of your life. What you focus on, expands. If you focus on your lack of money, then you attract lack into your life. If you speak broke-ness into your life, you will experience it. If you manage your money with fear, you will experience continued fear with your finances. If your relationship to your money is that it eludes you, scares you or if you feel it is something you need to control, you are not going to be comfortable with the flow of money in your life. Instead, you should look at your money as a team member in your goals of life. Money is not against you. It’s an energy tool that the Universe can use to help you create the life that you believe you deserve.

Take a moment to think about your relationship with money. It’s time to start repairing it and changing your perspective about the role money plays in your life. It’s time to look at it as a friend that wants to help rather than something that is seeking to abandon you. Rich people have faith that they will always have the money they need and they do what it necessary to grow and keep their money. They see wealth as a member of the family and a source of freedom. How do you see your money?

“We are channels that move money and other forms of energy in the direction of our dreams so we can bring them to fruition”- Maria Nemeth

The Low-Cost Gift You Can Give This Season

“When we recall Christmas past, we usually find that the simplest things – not the great occasions – give off the greatest glow of happiness.”― Bob Hope

We’re moving towards the Christmas Holiday Season. This season is supposed to bring with it happiness and joy, but it can also carry sadness for some people. Our economy still hasn’t rebounded and many people find themselves without jobs.

If you focus on the materialism of the holiday, there is an unspoken pressure to out-do or go over the top on gift-giving. Parents can feel pressured to lavish their children with expensive toys and electronics especially if that is what they have received in the past. It can be hard to be the person that can’t give gifts because you have to make your mortgage, rent or car payment. Who wants to explain that you are just making it? Gift-giving has become more of a status competition and not an expression of love between people who care about each other.

But, if you shift your focus to the spirit of the Christmas Holiday season, then you understand that it’s not about what you can buy in a store. A gift is so much more than something expensive wrapped up in pretty paper and covered with a bow. Not having store-bought gifts doesn’t make it any less Christmas. It’s supposed to be an exchange of love. It’s not loving to feel bad about what you can’t afford. It should be about spending time with friends or family. It should be about sharing your talent and gifts with those you love. The most memorable gifts are the ones that are unexpected. Will they remember the year that you bought them something on their list? Or will they remember the year that they unwrapped a sweater you knitted? Or the earrings you made? Or the special poem you wrote for them.

Unfortunately, with our materialistic culture, there is less appreciation placed on our ability to create with love. Young children don’t always understand the benefits of something that was created with the two hands of someone you love. But, as someone who has lost people I care about, I can tell you how special it is when you hold something that someone made especially for you. You can feel the loving thoughts coming from it and feel much more of a connection than from a store-bought gift.

The goal this season is to remember why we celebrate the holiday. It’s not about standing in long lines and spending ourselves into debt. It’s about sharing and showing love. It’s never about the gift. It’s about the thought. When you buy or create  a gift, you thought about that person up until the moment that they rip it open and smile. It’s that thought that lights you up inside and that thought that makes them cherish the gift you have given them. The true gift is allowing that person to live in your heart and mind.

“Christmas is doing a little something extra for someone.” ― Charles M. Schulz



Are You Making Dollars and Sense?

Our thoughts manifest our reality. In our reality, money is a means. It is used to buy food, to buy amenities and to provide shelter. It is difficult to say that you don’t need it. However, it is foolish to treat it as if it ts the most important thing in your life. Everything in life requires balance. Money won’t love your family, but it will provide them shelter. But, your perception and relationship to money can affect how it factors into your life. Most of us have  a fear that we developed through some experience in our past that governs our relationship to money. For me, I have a few vivid memories of losing money that created a fear for me that I would never have enough money and affected my ability to trust others with my money.

“Don’t tell me where your priorities are. Show me where you spend your money and I’ll tell you what they are.”- James W. Frick

When I was a  girl, I had a large, white and pink, ceramic, piggy bank. During that time, there was no plastic piece in the bottom. The only way to get the money out was to smash a hole in the piggy bank. I got it for my birthday and family members put money in the piggy bank for me. I knew there were bills and change. I was adding change to it when I had some. In my mind, I had a goal that I would save the money until I was older and than I wouldn’t have to worry about money. As a child, I thought that I was going to be rich. One day, I looked at the piggy bank and saw that there was a large hole in it. A family member had fallen on hard times and decided to smash the piggy bank and take the money. After that, I developed trust issues and fear over my money that anyone could come and take it if they felt they needed it more than me. I felt powerless and I learned that other people’s needs were more important than mine. I think this is how my dysfunctional beliefs about money began.

How do you change your beliefs about money? It all starts with awareness. You have to think about the stories that feed your beliefs about money. Think about memories in the past that you find painful that involve money or lack of money. You should also think about memories where you were happy that involved money. In those instances is when you developed your belief about money and what it means to your life. If lack of money denied you pleasure and the things that you wanted, you may find that you have a strong desire to spend money to make yourself happy. If money was something that you saw spent with reckless abandon and you suffered embarrassment because of it, you may find that you hold on to money or restrict it to necessities. There are a multitude of outcomes and reasons.

I always say if you want to change your life, you have to change your thinking. You have to change your belief about money. Money is neither good nor evil. It’s just paper. We give it power, meaning and reason through our thinking. And the truth is that there is no real reason you shouldn’t have it, at least enough to take care of your needs. And not everyone that has more money has sold their soul. It may just mean that they understand that the flow of money is essential to their vision of life and they don’t allow fear to prevent it. The only difference between any two people’s experience is their thinking. I’ve read that many marriages end in divorce over money. It’s not the money that is the issue between the two people. It’s how they use or abuse the money that can cause tension and issues. If neither person is willing to deal with their fears and beliefs about money, they will find it difficult to cooperate with their spouse. They will also pass on their fears to their children because children watch  and learn from their parent’s relationship with money.

“People first, then money, then things.”- Suze Orman

Money is not the enemy. It is a means to an end. The Universe will give you what you need, but if you fear money than you are asking for more reasons to worry about it or not have it. Take a moment and think about money. What’s your relationship? Is your relationship to money affecting your other relationships? Can you change it?