Why I Have No New Year’s Resolutions

Today is the last day of 2012. For me, this year has been a roller-coaster. There have been extremely high-highs and desperately low-lows, but I learned a lot about not only myself but also those around me. I am surrounded and supported by people who really love me and I am only sad that I didn’t know it until now.

My posts over the last year have chronicled my growth. They have mostly served me as cathartic by allowing me to share my thoughts and what I learn with everyone. It’s also encouraged me to write and create on a daily basis. My many thanks to those that take the time to read these writings. If any post helped you, then I have served my purpose.

I’ve decided that I am not going to make any resolutions for 2013. People usually make them in the hype of the new year and then lose steam a few months later. I understand the importance of speaking over your life, so I’ve decided to create aspirations for the new year. I am giving myself something to aspire to rather than to declare my intentions.

For 2013,

  • I aspire to listen to myself more this year and trust that I know better what is better for me. I will trust my gut.
  • I aspire to continue to trust that everything in my life is working for my benefit. I should not worry because everything is a lesson designed to help me grow.
  • I aspire to love everyone as I love myself. As I continue to love myself more, I am creating more room and more ability to love others. I will give myself the same compassion, support and care as I would give someone else.
  • I aspire to serve. Relationships are a place to serve because serving brings growth. My purpose is how I serve.
  • I aspire to have more fun in life. I’ve spent the first thirty-plus years focused on how hard my life was. I will spend the next thirty-plus with my focus on how fun and easy life can be.

There are a few words that I will no longer use if I am speaking into my life: should, can’t, and impossible.

In my mind, should leads to expectations and expectations lead to disappointment. If I talk about what someone should do, I am not accepting of who they are as a person. I will no longer say someone or something should. I plan to try to learn how to not should all over my life and, instead, accept what I’ve been offered. Instead of expecting people and things to change to fit me, I will use people to help me understand what I need to change about myself. But, that doesn’t mean that I have to continue to associate with people who don’t match the type of life I want for myself. If I want a fun and easy life, the people who I associate on a daily basis must contribute to it. I will talk about this more in a later post.

In my mind, can’t and impossible don’t actually exist. They are barriers that I place in my mind so I won’t speak those words over my life. There is nothing I can’t do and nothing is impossible. It doesn’t mean that I WANT to do everything. I have a right to choose what I will do, but all things are possible.

This is what I decided to do. In my mind, by making them aspirations I have given myself the space to be human. We are imperfect, but I know when I am aspiring even if I falter I can wake up the next day and try again.

“For last year’s words belong to last year’s language and next year’s words await another voice.”- T.S. Eliot

Happy New Year’s to all my friends. Thank you for continuing to read. I speak into your life, love, happiness, prosperity and joy. You already have all these things, my wish for you is to see your own power. Peace and blessings!