If you’ve ever watched the singing competition reality shows, you’ve witnessed people trying out that clearly can’t sing. I always find it funny that when they emerge from their rejection by the judges that they are surrounded by a group of people who continue to nurture their delusion. They say, “They don’t know what they are talking about. You are the best singer ever. They don’t know talent.”
Maybe the group of people think that they are doing something good by encouraging the person, but they are actually doing a disservice. It’s shockingly easy to find people who will support your delusions and it is much less likely to find people who are strong enough to tell you the truth even when it means hurting your feelings. People that won’t tell you the truth are afraid of what your feelings will mean to them. People that tell you the truth are more afraid of watching you travel down the wrong road and having your feelings hurt in the long run.
You may be surrounded by people who are not only watching you chase the wrong dream, but are directing you in your delusion. There may be something that you are really good at, but you can have people in your life that tell you to ignore it. I often think that some of the best singing voices will never be heard by the masses because those people are languishing in an office somewhere trying to be “secure.” But, everything is not for everybody. It’s not only about singing. You have to also be a performer and everyone is not a performer. There are some people who have the “It Factor” that can’t be denied. You can dress them up in a suit, but they still look like a star. The sign that you are living someone else’s life is if you feel uncomfortable and are constantly trying to distract yourself with a new task or a new thing that you think will make you happy.
“Those who have failed to work toward the truth have missed the purpose of living.” ― Siddhārtha Gautama
The reason why you have to be self-directed and self-approved in this life is because you are not guaranteed to be surrounded by people who will direct you in the right way. Some people will direct you to follow their dreams. Some will direct you away from their failures even though you may succeed. Some of the cheerleaders in your life are only there for attention, they don’t even know the game nor how to play it. If you really want to find out if you are good at something, ask someone who is already doing it. Surrounding yourself with mentors and like-minded people is the best way to know if you are on the right track. Find a community of people that are doing the same thing that you are doing.
Don’t get me wrong. If you are completely tone-deaf, but you love singing, it doesn’t mean that you have to stop. It means that you have to stop trying to be a professional singer, but you may be able to find a community of equally tone-deaf people who enjoy singing and sing until your heart’s content. You don’t have to give up what you’re not good at if you love it. You have to let go of the dream of it being your purpose and find the gift that you have been given that you are supposed to share with the world. As long as you are chasing someone else’s dream, you are ignoring your own.
“Your purpose in life is to find your purpose and give your whole heart and soul to it” ― Siddhārtha Gautama