How to Stop Judging Others

“People are doing the best that they can from their own level of consciousness.”― Deepak Chopra

It’s so easy to judge. It’s so easy to look at another person and decide that their actions were something because they didn’t react the way that you would in the same situation. We are all born of our experiences. We all gain knowledge in our own time and through our own life journey. If you’ve ever been in a school classroom, you can see that not every student gets the lesson at the same time. Some get it right away with very little instruction while others struggle to absorb the concept.

We are not all good at understanding the same things. I’m someone who can spell almost any word in my mind by sounding it out, dissecting the syllables and picking it out of a sentence. Ask me to do math in my head and I’m pulling up the calculator app on my cellphone. It’s doesn’t make me stupid or less than because I can’t do math in my head. It’s just that my mind gravitates to words and that is my strong area of concentration. I used to feel bad about it. I used to try my hardest to build my proficiency in math. Then one day, I realized that I could just leave the math to those that thrive in figuring out the mathematical equation. It was more fun for me to figure out words and string them together to get my point across.

For everything in this world, there is someone in the world that loves to do it. There are people like me that are trying to raise their level of consciousness. I share it with you, so you can do the same if you wish to. But, I have to remind myself that everyone is not at the same level of consciousness and may not be in their lifetime. Some people don’t want to. It’s that simple. I can’t say that it is right or wrong. We all learn in our own ways. Some of us learn from the plight of others. Some of us learn from our own problems in the road. Then, there are some of us that prefer to run into brick walls to get the lesson.

The important thing to remember is to meet people where they are. It doesn’t mean that you have to stay there with them. If your level of consciousness is raising and your friend doesn’t want to hear it, then you may have to leave that friend where they are. If yo want them to remain in your life, then you have to find acceptance for where they are in their level of consciousness. If you cannot do that without out interfering with your growth, then you may have to limit your association. Judgement doesn’t benefit you or the person that you are judging. All it does is create negative feelings between you and that person. When you grow, you will have to leave some people behind. It’s apart of life. The same way that your body changes as you grow in years, your friends will change as your consciousness changes. There are people who have to come into your life to usher you to the next level. As long as you are trying to stay with all the old people in your life, you miss your opportunities to grow and develop resentment for those that you are holding yourself back for.

The truth is that everyone in this life is doing the best they can. Your best is not their best. We all have gifts, but we were not all born with people who help us find out what they are. But, I believe people are brought into your life to remind you of your purpose over and over again until you get it. If you can find it in your heard to speak kindness to someone else, maybe you can be someone who reminds them. In this life, there are plenty of people who will speak down to you or speak negativity of you. But, there is no reason why you have to be one of those people to someone else. Through your growth and kindness, you can be an inspiration.

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle.” ― Plato