In my mind, Valentine’s Day is a day to celebrate love so why not love yourself on this special day. I can admit that it’s hard to watch other people celebrating Valentine’s Day while you have no one sending you flowers or taking you out to a special dinner, but you can’t internalize that to mean anything about you. If you are single, it only means that you haven’t found the right person yet. If you are doing the work on yourself to be better, you are doing everything that is required of you. When you are ready the right person will be there for you. Until then, you are the right person for you.

So, I empower those that are single to celebrate it as what I call, “Pamper Me Day.” If you want flowers, get or send them to yourself. You can order or pick up dinner unless you enjoy cooking for yourself, but make yourself a special meal of something you really enjoy. Free yourself to do something that reminds you how much you appreciate yourself. I used to draw a relaxing bath, light candles, play music and relax with a glass of wine. One of the great things about being single is that you don’t have to balance your needs with anyone else’s so do all the things you want to do and enjoy all your favorites. You can do as much or as little, but celebrate yourself with something that you enjoy.

You can also spread the love to others. If you have friends who are single, you can send them flowers and gifts that day and agree that they will do the same for you. You can enjoy a night out with them. Or, you can visit someone who has lost their companion and is spending their Valentine’s Day alone. Love is love. It’s not just about couples and there are more love relationships in your life that can be honored on Valentine’s Day. You can honor your relationships with the people in your life who support you. You can also honor the greatest love story of your life, you. Spend Valentine’s Day reminding yourself how wonderful you are and make yourself feel loved in the best way possible.

How can you celebrate this Valentine’s Day. Share your thoughts in comments.

Loving yourself…does not mean being self-absorbed or narcissistic, or disregarding others. Rather it means welcoming yourself as the most honored guest in your own heart, a guest worthy of respect, a lovable companion.- Margo Anand

Your task is not to seek for Love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. – Rumi