How Worrying May Be Giving You Exactly What You DON’T Want

Hello friends:

It’s been some time since I’ve written. It’s my fault because I allowed life to get in the way of my writing. I stopped doing the thing I love. I apologize that I wasn’t here to inspire you, but, if I am honest, I forgot how to inspire myself for a little while.

I thought about if I should be honest about this. Some people may say, why should I listen to her if she can’t do it for herself? But, it is my hope, that some people will see themselves. We all try really hard to stay on our path, but something can come along that blows you away. I think it’s important to get back on the path and keep pushing.

So, I had to rededicate and recommit to pursuing my best life despite the setbacks and obstacles.

I will share more of my hiatus and journey back in later posts.

It’s on my heart to share something.

I heard the quote, “Worrying is like praying for what you don’t want.” 

I have always been really good at worrying. I worry about things that affect me, other people and the world in general. I never really thought about how it might affect me and shape my world. The quote made me think of how I have worried myself into the exact situations I didn’t want to be in.

Whether you believe in the Universe or God, prayer is literal which is why you should be clear about what you want. So, I thought about if you are worrying how unclear it must be as a request.

Think of a prayer as placing an order with the Universe/God.

Let’s pretend you are in a restaurant and you are ready to place your order.

You say:

I would like a hamburger, but I’m worried that you might make it well-done when I prefer medium-well.  I would like cheese on it, but I’m concerned that you will give me provolone instead of American. I’m afraid that you will put Romaine lettuce on it when I would prefer iceberg. I don’t like red onions, but they always seem to be on my burger anyway. And there is nothing I want more than some ketchup, but I’m sure you will give me mustard.

When your burger arrives, it is well-done  with provolone cheese, romaine lettuce, red onion and covered in mustard.

You didn’t get what you wanted. As you gave your order, you explained to the server more of what you didn’t want than what you wanted. The server is busy. He doesn’t have time to decipher what you really mean. All he knows is that you are hungry and he needs to feed you. But, most of us know to never be this unclear in a restaurant. We understand that we have been direct and say exactly what we want or we won’t get it.

I am guilty of this as well. I spend so much time focusing on what I don’t want to happen that I end up seeing it happen over and over. Worry is simply focusing on what you don’t want to happen. It’s natural to worry. But, it’s important to cut it off and switch your focus to the outcome you want to see. Focus your feelings and thoughts on what you want to happen.

If you are going to obsess over something, make sure it is what you want rather than what you don’t want. Whether you realize it or not, you are sending the signal that it is what you want in your life.

Rule number one is, don’t sweat the small stuff. Rule number two is, it’s all small stuff. – Robert Eliot


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