“Just because they see my face doesn’t mean they see me. A person’s self-esteem has nothing to do with how she looks. If it’s true that I’m beautiful, I’m proof of that. Self-esteem comes from who you have in your life. How you were raised. What you struggled with as a child.”- Halle Berry
I read this quote and I felt some strong truth in it. We love to think that everyone else is happier than we are. We like to think that if someone is more beautiful or richer that their life must be perfect. The truth is that no one survives life unscathed. Everyone has work to do in their lifetime. We are all dealing with something. No one lives a perfect life. No one avoids pain. Money doesn’t solve your problems and neither does beauty. It may open doors, but it doesn’t erase your fears, insecurities or issues.
Unfortunately, we are sold these beliefs through television, magazines and music. There are all these messages telling us that if we just lose weight, get rich or find the perfect person that everything in our life will be perfect. The truth is that until you do the inner work, nothing that you gain in your life will fix your inability to be happy. There is nothing outside of yourself that is preventing you from being happy. Your outside world reflects your inner world.
Everything in your outer world is a cue or a lesson to what needs to be fixed in your inner world. Whatever you are going through has been attracted to your life to help you repair your soul. We learn through pain so we go through painful situations over and over again until we learn the lesson. However, we aren’t meant to suffer. Suffering is what you experience when you view the situations as if they are not supposed to happen or not supposed to be in your life. When you understand that everything happens in your life is designed for your growth, you can accept the situations and learn the lessons. If you choose to suffer, you choose to experience the pain again and again. The quicker you learn the lesson, the fewer times you will have to go through the same thing. And no one, no matter how beautiful, rich or smart, is free of this process. We all learn the same way.
Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle. – Philo
Can you see this process at play in your life? Are you choosing to suffer? Are you unfairly judging someone that you can be kind to? Share in comments.